Flawed people become parents all the time. Being a parent is just part of the human condition — it’s not a merit prize. It’s funny, I never think of James as a “baby daddy.” I think of him as the father of these two girls. He isn’t a great dad, but he is their father.
I remember when the term “baby daddy” first came into vogue. I think there was a song where the singer says, “That ain’t nobody; he just my baby daddy” [B-Rock and the Bizz, “My Baby Daddy”]. It’s such a dismissive way to talk about a very serious relationship.
As Dana says in Silver Sparrow, “It matters what you call things.” James may be short with glasses, but he is a human being, and he makes a human connection with Gwen. I think there are many people who are flawed, who are not right for us, but with whom we make a human connection. That’s why life is complicated.
check out my former prof tayari jones’ interview with the root. love her! she has a big year ahead and deserves it all.